problems with 8-year old PLEASE READ!!

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ericsmommy

DATE: 01/12/04 9:00pm

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problems with 8-year old PLEASE READ!!

Hello! I usually post on the pregnancy loss board but since losing the baby son is having bad problems.
It all started though when we moved this past summer from the school district where mylittle boy had started school in pre-kindergarten(known in my area as young 5's) He had to leave all of his friends there and was having a hard time fitting in at his new school from day 1. then on September 19,2003 we lost his baby brother at 28 weeks gestational age. when I told him that mommy would not be delivering a baby in December his problem grew worse. He is very mean at times to the children and teachers at his new school(he even hit the teacher's aid) he pushes little kids up against their lockers while he is on a bathroom break and the whole nine yards.
He is a very sweet little boy but he is having almost"adult sized" problems to deal with lately. He has told me that all he wants is to go back to his old school with all of his old friends. But that is not an option since his oldd shool is soooo far away.
He has also been diagnosed as ADHD positive and has been on concerta since he started school in young 5's almost 4 years ago. But since loosing the baby we can not afford right now to pay for the prescription. However he never really needed it until after we lost the baby, doctor had actually taken him off it.
I am thinking about DRIVING him to the next school district(9 miles away) where his best friend goes to see if maybe that would help him but I just do not know if that would be wise either.
He is also having bad thoughts where his father is concerrned too. I know Jimmy(his daddy) loves him but he tends to make promises to my son and doesn't keep them. When we lost the baby my little boy had a conversation with my grandmother that went like this....
grandma(speaking to my son): how are you doing?
my son: I am sad
grand ma: why
son: my brother died, my mommy cries all of the time.
grand ma: it is sad for her
son:It makes me sad to see her cry
grandma: I know- how is daddy doing?
son:he cries too grammy, but I know why he cries
grandma:why?
son: cause he wishes it was me that died

My husband would NEVER think that, but why would Austyn(my son)think it? I just do not know what to do anymore. I am VERY concerned about my son and have asked the school counselor for a list of professional counselors in the area that might be able to help him. His daddy and I are also having problems as well, and even though we never talk about it in front of the kids I think my son senses it. Any advice?
thanks for listening....... Betty

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problems with 8-year old PLEASE READ!!

ericsmommy

01/12/04 09:00pm

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michele123

01/14/04 12:48pm

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