Changing last name from Fathers to Mothers

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Ariesmom3

DATE: 12/29/03 11:09pm

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Changing last name from Fathers to Mothers

I am a single mother of 3. My older 2 children were by my ex-husband. I was young and never wanted the divorce, but it was to much for my young husband at the time. Years later I met someone and wanted to try again. I had just lost my mother at a still young age and was looking for someone to share with. We were living together after a yr and soon later engaged. He was also divorced from an older women. That couldn't have children but promised other options for expanding there family. Later she decided that it wasn't in her best intrest and It made huge problems in there relationship. (OR SO HE TOLD ME). He then explained to me how important having a child was to him and how important it was for the children not to be seperated by a huge age gab (at the time I had 2 girls.(both still at reasonably young ages.) So even though we hadn't set the date but knew it was close. We started trying thinking it would probally take awhile. Well It didn't the next month I was pregnant. But all was good. Tell the 8th month he had started being harsher. Saying that he was not use to a womens hormones but, cruel as well. Saying he was not attracted to pregnant women if I asked the common question when pregnant am I fat!!!!!!!! He also started stating his views on how to raise females and that if we just raise them right. Explaining to them early that they should serve there man and that they shouldn't talk back and they should be learning house work as there main profession. That if they made there man happy and others women as well the divorce rate would lower ect ect. then I finally responded being pregnant and hormonal I was not going to take if for long and he became phyiscally violent. Throwing me 8mnths pregnant into an entertainment center. And it continued until a halting stop when he started hitting and strangling me while laying in bed with the new baby who was another girl. He screamed while doing it that I was rude for turning on the lights before entering bed. Beacuse he had retired earlier. I guess that was his reason. Not excepting that for long I got a retraining order took possession of the home and severed parental rights. For a reason that I left out while punching me in the chest he missed and hit our daughter in the side causing a prominate bruise I knew then it was over and with a camera recorded the evidence while in process of a restraining order. That night I called the police and after they took him I retreated to a family members home with my children until I could accomplish my goals. Only years before I had lost my mother so I was use to hard times. I have sense found out during our relationship he was doing drugs. Any way 2yrs later. After getting over that. Getting possession of the home and 2 vehicals both of which were mine from before the relationship anyways I returned to court asking for them to change my babys name from her fathers name to mine and her sisters. The older sisters father was all for it, we are on pretty good terms now that we are both older. And the babys father has tried but under law and a protective mother will not have a chance or right to be or speak with her. Shes now turning 3yrs. The last time he had contact with her she was 6 months. So the court found it under her best intrest. I was so happy:> She will grow up as a fare part of this family and even though we're all girls. WERE The Waters Girls instead of Waters/Szente and for that it unites us in a great bond that we are eternally greatful for...........

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Changing last name from Fathers to Mothers

Ariesmom3

12/29/03 11:09pm

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