 | Some of the things that you mention in your message sounds all to famialar with my son. However, my son is ADHD, which is under control. My son is very hard headed and very head strong and has always liked to do things his way or it is the highway. He too doesnt like it when I make him hold my hand. I think he was born knowing how to do it all, or so he thinks. He is four years old now and we still work on it daily. I am the boss and he is not. That is something that he has to learn and realize. If he makes a mess, he cleans it up. Or he doesnt get to watch any of his movies. I usually take something away from him that he dearly loves. Perhaps you should try that with your daughter. If my son wakes before me I know it because he gets in my bed telling me he is hungry. I don't think I have ever experienced him getting up at the crack of dawn before myself and making his own breakfast. Put a lock on the cabinets. Put a lock on the fridge. That way when she wakes up she has to come to you for food. We just have very independant children. We have to find ways that are unique to help them. I can help you with what I have learned through email if you would like. For example, if my son does not get his way (you said your daughter was mad all day because you didn't take her to the pool) I don't tolerate that nonesense. If my son whines like that I tell him that I will leave the room and go where it is more quieter until he calms himself down and when he does i will be back. He ususally will scream, cry even harder then calms down and tells me that ok, he is done. I just have to be cool and calm during the whole time because if he sees for one second that i am reacting to his angerment then he tends to be dramatic just to get that reaction. If he wants to throw his toys, I throw them in the garbage. If that is how he thinks about his toys then he doesn't need them. One day while he was in the tub with all of his favorite toys, he decided to pour our shampoo out. So i took all of his toys placed them in a wal-mart bag and threw them in the garbage. He has not dumped our shampoo out since them. And he now knows what respect is. No matter how harsh those acts are, he knows that I am the boss and not him and that sometimes when they want to do something wrong, we as parents can mimic their actions to teach them a lesson. My email is tjmace@uh.edu |
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