 | It is nice to know I am not alone in this!!!! I have two boys,4 and 1 1/2, and have been dealing with both of them!!!! My older son whines all the time and has recently been telling me no when I ask him to do something. He has recently been suspended from school for biting a girl and on his second day back (I thought things were going well) punched a boy in the stomach. I thought that maybe he just didnt like the girl because she is mean to him, but i am wondering now if something else isnt going on. He is constantly sick. My 1 and 1/2 year old cries ALL THE TIME and follows me around the house with his hands in the air for me to hold him. He is mean to his older brother to the point where my 4 year old will run from him because he tries to take his toy or hits him. I would have thought it would be the other way around. My youngest struggles with me when I try to put him in his car seat and has recently started throwing his food on the floor when he doesn't want it any more. He tries to hit me. I grab his hand and look him directly in the eye and with a stern voice say NO, then he'll just look right at me and do it again. He is only 1 and 1/2. I dont even want to see what 2 let alone 3 will be and all the while I am dealing with my 4 year old getting kicked out of school! I feel like such a failure as a mother sometimes. I too get embarrassed to go places with them because I feel they dont know how to act. I dont remember the last time we went out to eat as a family. Its just too stressing. I do blame myself because I have always been too nurturing and am not stern enough. I also know that consistancy is key and I am a big offender. I have recently been trying to change and have been more consistant and have toned down my yelling. Havent seen an improvement yet, but Im sure it will take time. It sounds like you and I both need to "take back the house" and set firm rules and stop being pushovers. Like one of the replies said, if you say your going to do it then be prepared to do it. I too want to enjoy this time while my kids are young, because time goes by so fast. I wish you luck. |
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