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DATE: 11/19/03 9:20pm

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Re: What Has Actually Worked for you?? (I feel a nervous breakdown coming on!)

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AUTHOR: pisces61

I have replied in this thread once before and was still feeling at my wits end - but a lot has changed since I posted, so I thought I'd share what's worked for us.

My son is just recently 4 years old and has been hitting, kicking, screaming, and being disrespectful to myself and his dad. We had tried behavior charts and time outs and a whole host of other things. Turns out what he really needed was total consistency - we thought we'd been consistent, when he would do one of the above things he always got a consequence, but it was always the same consequence. What we have done now is outlined for ourselves what his "currency" seems to be. Each of the undesirable behaviors has it's own consequence that is the same every time he does it. For example, now when he screams, he knows without a doubt that his trains will be taken away for a specified length of time, if he continues, his cars are next, etc. We did this with each of the undesirable behaviors and it has worked like a charm. Instead of multiple meltdowns per day, we maybe have one every 2-3 weeks - I can live with that!

Well, hopefully that made some sense - I'm just excited that it's working so well and it's been so simple. The only hard part was trying to figure out what consequences were going to work for him.

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