She may be mad she's not the baby. Point out how great it is to be a big girl.

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VBway

DATE: 11/18/03 4:24pm

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She may be mad she's not the baby. Point out how great it is to be a big girl.

IN REPLY TO: temper tantrum with new baby
AUTHOR: jeffnj

Use a sticker chart to chart out all the big girl stuff she does, like goes potty (if she is still getting the hang of that), or cleans up her room, or whatever stage she is at.

Then add to her list of responsibilities. Maybe now she can help mommy do the dishes (gets to rinse off the spoons) or do the laundry (gets to put some clothes in the washer and close the lid). You guys use your creativity and knowledge of your daughter to figure this out. When she does big girl stuff, she gets a sticker.

Along with responsibilities comes privledges. She is a big girl now, you know? She is a big sister and everything. She now can do all kinds of big girl stuff she couldn't before. Set up play dates and possible sleepovers (she may be too young for this. You will have to decide this with your wife to figure it out). Maybe you can sign her up for a toddler tumblers course or something. Maybe she can go to the library's weekly toddler story time. Who knows? There are tons of things out there.

Anyways, the point is to have her understand that being a big girl is much better than being the baby. And if she acts like a baby (like hitting instead of expressing her anger with words or yelling at the baby) then she won't get to do her big girl stuff.

Try this out to see if it works.

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temper tantrum with new baby

jeffnj

09/15/03 12:21pm

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mommieann

09/16/03 12:03pm

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Hollis's Mommy

09/22/03 12:00pm

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J's Mommie

11/18/03 08:14am

Re: temper tantrum with new baby

thwarted

09/16/03 08:23am

Re: temper tantrum with new baby

thwarted

09/17/03 09:48am

Re: temper tantrum with new baby

lostparent

09/30/03 03:06pm

Re: temper tantrum with new baby

blu-sky

10/08/03 07:02am

Give the daughter a baby (doll) she has to care for...

VBway

11/18/03 04:30pm

She may be mad she's not the baby. Point out how great it is to be a big girl.

VBway

11/18/03 04:24pm

Re: She may be mad she's not the baby. Point out how great it is to be a big girl.

thwarted

11/19/03 09:22am

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