 | I would have a parent teacher conference here about this. Also include the girl's parents as well. As much as you would like to yell at her parents and blame them, DON'T. Go at it from this angle: Listen, we have a problem here that I am not willing to let go. Our children do not get along at all. The way things have gone so far is unacceptable. This cannot go on. I called this meeting in order to come up wit a solution rather than to assign blame. (keep it at that)
My guess is that if the girl is calling your son a b*tch, then the parents may not be the kind that cares at all. Hmmm...what do you do at that point?
Also, tell your son that when she does things to him, YELL, not just say, but YELL "STOP!!!" By the way, I agre with you on telling your son that he was wrong to bite her. Punishing this violent action was a good first step. But, as you will read later, this is not the last.
If it were my child, I would be tempted to tell my son to follow this course of action. Yell stop. If the action happens again, yell stop again, then go right to the teacher and tell her what happened followed by, "If you can't help me, then I have to handle it myself" And if it happens again, yell stop and bite her (or what ever it takes to get her to quit) But HEY! That's me. I do not condone violence (since I grew up in a violent home) but even more than that, I do not condone the feeling of hopelessness and helplessness. If this problem isn't solved by the supervising adult, your son may feel unsafe. This is also unacceptable. Your first priorty is to your son, not the daycare center's rules. I might even actively look for another daycare if talking with the teacher and the girl's parents doesn't help. I would make my concerns well-known to the director and tell her that you are very unhappy about the way the problem is being handled.
Please give me an update on what happens and how it was handled and what you decided to do.
Veronica |
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