 | I have a question about my 4 year old son who recently started preschool. At first he was having problems listening to the teachers, which got better, but I never got a bad report about him not getting along with the other kids. He is VERY social and has grown up with mostly girl cousins and seems to gravitate towards girls. However, on atleast four separate occasions my son has told me that a little girl in class is very mean to him. He has come home telling me he is stupid and ugly and he doesnt like himself. I told him he is a beautiful and smart child and asked him where he had heard such a thing. He said the little girl at school tells him he is ugly and stupid. I expressed my concern to the teachers and they said that the girl is very bossy with other kids and that they would separate them. They also said that my son can be playing in a completely different area and she will come to them and a tattle on him when she hasnt even been in the same vicinty of him. After separating them, they said things were going well and that the tattling had calmed down. Well yesterday I got a call from my caregiver that he had been suspended from school for biting her. My son said that he bit her because she would not leave him alone, kept following him, punched him in the face and called him a b*tch. My son has not bitten anyone since he was two. I do not in anyway condone biting or any other form of violence and have taken his favorite cartoons away. He understands that he is in trouble and has been kicked out of school. I am going to speak with the teachers about keeping the two separated totally. My son is really a social butterfly and gets along with almost everyone, but I have seen a change in his self esteem and behavior lately and when asked why he feels that way almost always says because this little girl is mean to him. Am I just blaming the other child??? What would someone else do in this situation? |
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