 | My 3-1/2 year old daughter has been crying on the mornings she has preschool begging me not to make her go, yet she is fine a few minutes after I leave. My son is 6, loves school, but can't stand for me to go anywhere and leave him. My MIL is coming to spend the night tomorrow to watch the children while my husband and I go out to dinner. I told the children about it last night and they went into hysterics. I tried to tell them calmly that everything would be fine, that I would come back, that grandma loves them, but they just couldn't calm down. They love their grandma and she is very good to them. They pleaded with me to not go anywhere, "just stay home with me". It is very unnerving and upsetting to me, but I try not to show that. Nothing I say seems to help them feel better about it.
On the other hand, they both have lots of friends at their schools and tend to take on leadership roles in their little groups at school. They are both very intelligent and even independent at home. I keep wondering if somehow I have failed them in making them feel secure when they are away from me. You really wouldn't believe how upset they get over the idea of going to preschool (for the 3 year old) or the idea of a sitter (for both of them). They just completely unravel.
What do you think could be the problem? |
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