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|  PREVIOUS MESSAGE | NEXT MESSAGE  | | | | | AUTHOR: | VBway | DATE: 11/05/03 8:11am | | SUBJECT: |  Re: Help, new mom. Since my son began daycare he is very aggressive and defiant. | | IN REPLY TO: Help, new mom. Since my son began daycare he is very aggressive and defiant.
AUTHOR: Mirror1 | | | My very sweet natured little boy that NEVER cried or anything all of a sudden began to cry when I left and began to hit out of anger, biting, and the like. I talked to my babysitter/home daycare lady, she said that "Oh, he is just getting at that age he begins to feel anxiety about you leaving him. It's normal. Don't worry about it." But I did worry about it. I could leave him with the Bennions (great friends of ours) and by the time I put him on the floor, he had forgotten I even exsisted. He would be so happy to be there. So I knew that there was not too much truth to what my daycare lady was saying. One day, I stayed a little longer to see what was going on, and I found that there was a little girl younger than him that was hitting him, pinching him, pulling his hair and taking his toys. He felt as though he had no other recourse, because the daycare lady wouldn't do much about it. I took him out if that situation and had the Bennions watch him for a while then enrolled him in a pre-school that I had researched quite a bit. I dropped in on some of the classes before enrolling him. I liked what I saw. He was clingy at first, but after a week, he would forget I was there by the time we got to his class. I know my son very well, just as you know your child well. What others say about what is normal only goes so far. You are the mother. You know what is best for your precious baby. If this is abnormal for your child, then change the situation.
No one is at fault, really. He may get overlooked at his daycare because of the teacher to child ratio. Find a professional pre-school (not daycare) that has a routine and structure, where there are smaller classes and more teachers. Find one that has no T.V. in the classroom, because you don't want to pay daycare prices for a babsitter who drops them in front of the tube and leaves them. Do research. Talk to some of the parnets of children there. Talk to the teachers and the director. You'll find one that fits your style and preferences. | |  | |
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