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| | | | | | | | AUTHOR: | nancy_o_b | DATE: 11/05/03 7:53am | | SUBJECT: |  Advise please.... | | | I have a 17 yr old stepson, as well as two grown chldren of my own, and two preteen girls. The problem: my stepson over the years, has had repeated bad behavior at school, to the point he had been expelled for assualting the principle. He has been caught wiht pills and pot as well. On several occasions, he left his paraphanalia lying around in his bedroom, in the open where any curious preteen kid would notice. I showed it to his father, who supposedly got rid of it(this caused a huge fight as well, because I'm "not supposed to touch his stuff", as he sees it. It seemed everytime he got himself in trouble, his father worked it out for him, and basically allowed the kid to blame his actions on others. He (the kid) threatened to kill me, and my girls about six months ago, during a rage in which he was slamming hs fist into my walls, using XXXXX languange, and acting out of control. At that time, as a final straw (his temper rages happened frequently) I told his father the kid needed to go live with his mom, or I would need to get an apartment, because I could not live with him threatening my life, and making my children live in fear. He father agreed. He know lives with his mom, about 20 minutes from us. The problem now is: I cant stand to have the kid around. Just his visiting depresses me, makes me feel anger, distrust, and I dont even want him in my home. I dont know how to get beyond the bitterness. I think part of my bitterness is that I want a baby with his father, and his father refuses. I think this is causing some, though definately not all, of my resentment and bitterness towards his one and only son. And I just dont know how to get beyond it. All advise welcome...but those of you who seem to like to be mean and hateful in your replys (and you KNOW who you are!!), well, take your bashing to Yahoo chat...theres a chat group there for people like you who like to be mean. | |  | |
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