 | Hi, I am with you on this! I have a son who turned 3 mid-October and has been exibhiting a lot of the same behaviors you mention. Knocking things over, throwing, hitting, pushing sometimes even biting. All of the above but with a big smile on his face and with a happy song in his heast...I just don't get it!
What seems to work the best for me is warning him that if he continues I will take away his favorite toy/toys (whatever he is into at the moment). I couple this with counting to three. (Great book..."One, Two, Three Magic" about discipline) These two statagies together seem to work best. However, when he throws something you can't 'count' him. You just say, "That's Three!, take five minutes in time-out and you may not play with your train table (watch any videos, have a cookie after dinner, etc) for the rest of the day. This makes him really upset. When I just did time-out, it didn't seem to phase him too much.
This comes straight from Dr Phil. Take away his "currency." Rock his world. Do this a few times and you will notice a difference.
It doesn't stop it completely, but seems to phase it out slowly. You will rarely get beyond the count of two before he decides to listen to you.
About the school thing(my son is in pre-school three morning a week), I've explained all this to his teachers but, with everything else going on, they just aren't consistent or don't 'get it.' He is in time out a lot so I am thinking of taking him out.
Also, you may want to look into Sensory Integration issues related to sensory-seeking behaviors. I see a lot of my son in the explainations. Do a google search on "sensory integration."
Hope this helps!
Monica |
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