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| | | | | | | | AUTHOR: | Co-habitant | DATE: 11/03/03 3:26pm | | SUBJECT: |  Space issues! | | | I just moved in with my boyfriend and his 2 kids, a girl and boy who will be 10 and 14 soon. So far we have gotten along pretty well. I really enjoy doing things with each of them individually and altogether as a family.
We live in close quarters where the kids have to share a room. they are with us 4 days out of the week and 3 days at their moms.
My boyfriend does not believe that the bedroom that we sleep in is our space, nor does he feel that way about the bathroom that is located in the bedroom. the kids things are constantly littering the floor and they keep all of their toiletries in that bathroom when they have their own. (except for his daughter cannot see in the mirror in her bathroom because she is still too short)
In the morning I have to use the bathroom to get ready for work at the same time that his son gets ready, I need some privacy. But lately he is rushing in to use the bathroom in our bedroom when i need it. even though the other bathrooms in the house are vacant. this happened today and i became angry for the first time in a year, he shut the door in my face so i went down to talk to his dad, who says that we should discuss this as a family later. His son has also mentioned at times that he was in the house before i was. i tell him that it's not nice of him to say that because it makes me feel badly.
at other times him and i get along famously, sometimes too famously because he tells me things that he does not want mentioned to his father which puts me in bad place.
I am very willing to compromise, i understand that my moving in is forcing them to make adjustments they have never made before and i am trying my best to make it a smooth transition. at the same time how smooth is to smooth? when do i establish my place?
I have no children nor do i plan on having any. I do not have practice at this. i have lived alone for quite sometime and have always had my space. i am not even sure whaty is normal, in my family this was not.
sometimes one of the kids crawl into bed with us or are already sleeping in our bed before we get there. one time i was awakened by his son standing over me at 4:30 in the morning waiting for me to wake up, because i went to work at that time. when i got out of bed he took over my spot. this really bothered me...
I appreciate how close they are, i missed that with my family- but is this too much? | |  | |
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