 | Often the other parents do not want to hear about it, or, it is all your daughters fault and not their daughter. I have a 12 year old. 7th grade now, same girls since 4th grade and they cannot let go of any issues. They continuw to badger my daughter, make new kids hate her, tell them bogus things about her, and she has a very hard time. She often comes home crying and states she does not want to go back to school, she has no friends, everyone hates her. My heart just breaks apart for her. She is the cutest little girl ever, manors, respect, cares for the next in line, and very well with any of the schools special needs kids, which also gets her picked on. It is unreal! I just want to go slap them all around, including there dumb ass parents for allowing such behavior. Recently my daughter found a way to beat all of this. She is about 4 months into her new "get friends and be popular" theory. It is working really well for her, up until this point. Yes, it is called lieing/storytelling. Whatever it takes to make them like her and not alienateher. This new techique is going to explosed in her face and I am trying so hard to stop her, but she cannot stop. She staid it is easier this way.
So I feel your pain. Kids are horrible. I wish I could help you understand it better. I keep telling her she has her faimly and when a "true" friend comes along she won't have to lie to have her. That friend will be just that, a friend. Until then, you have us, we love you and we are here for you, we support you and admire you. I do not know how to help her get through this and for her, it is the same cluster of girls that follow her from grade to grade since grade 4. So whatever 4th grade crap happened, they continue to spread stories about to every new personmy daughter may meet, causing a friendship to not bloom due to it. How unfair is that? I have tried going to the other parents, besides the parents pointing fingers soley at my daughter for all of this, the next day at school it was worse for her, they emotionally beat her up so bad for having her Mommy defend her.
Take deep breaths and hold onto her tightly. that is all I do. Because I do not know what else to do. |
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