 | O.k. so these new experiences are so exciting and I'm sure out of this world, but just take a min. to think. I know in this day and age sex appears every where, but it is one of the biggest choices you could ever make. It is something that you can never take back. Just a few words of advice.
1> make the choice before BY YOURSELF if you are going to or not. This is very important, because when you start making out you can get to involved and that is not the time to try and choose. You mind and body will only react to the feelings, and not common sence.
2> if you make your choice not to stick to it. Not only would it be hard on you can you imagine your poor boyfriend. YES NO games are horrible, and it just is not fair.
3> I know this might be a long way off, but think of your future and all the possiblities this choice might bring. Example Sex=baby??
4> if your do be extreamly careful. Not only do you have to choose a method of birthcontol, you need to talk to your boyfriend and see what he also thinks about it. It is not your responsibity alone.
5> give your parents a little more credit. I know they must seem soooo old, but they usually have a clue what is going on, expecially if you have a boyfriend. Mine sure did.
Remember that your parents love you and only want the best for you. I suggest that you think how you might handle it if you had a 17 year old telling you this? All in all I had sex for the first time when I was 17 and now being 24 I do wish I would have waited. I thought I had my whole life in control and I was so mature, but really it caused more heartache and pain that I think I could have delt with better if I had been older. On a side note not at 17, but I did get pregnant a little later. It was hard and well if you can help it I would not suggest it till you are older and even married.
So back to you question are you close to your parents? Maybe before you take the plunge into sex get to know your parents a little bit better. Take time out of your life to spend time with them. One on one and together. I know this sounds stupid but when you really have a good relationship with your parents you will be able to express what you need to, and at the right time.
Don't use your relationship with your boyfriend to override your family. They will always be here. Trust me when I say BOYFRIENDS COME AND GO!
Wish you the best, let me know how it goes.
email me at michelle_steve3@otmail.com
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