 | My mother has been seeing her new boyfriend for 2 weeks now. She is the type of person to adopt a new family and ignore her own, I've gotten used to it and it doesn't bother me very much anymore. Until...sigh. She is constantly watching her boyfriend's young son. He is a single father and works 12 hours a day. I've been in his position before and understand how hard it is. His son is 7 years old and has down syndrome and cerebal palsy. He cannot feed himself, cannot grasp things, and is confined to a wheelchair.Otherwise he is a happy, beautiful child. I feel horribly about his situation and that he has no mother figure in his life, his mother left him at 3 months and hasn't seen him since. Now, things get ugly. My mother has taken this child as her own now basically. She has kept him basically non-stop since she met her boyfriend. Sadly, she has only kept my 3 year old son once in the past seven months while I was in the emergency room. My son is very affectionate and loves everyone he knows very deeply. My mother is constantly asking me to bring my son to see her new 'baby'. But I am terrified for many reasons. I have no idea how my son will react. He has already distanced himself from my mother, he cries because she doesnt want him at her house, he is a mess already because she has little to do with him. I fear how he will feel to see her with another child. She rather rudely tells him that she doesn't want him because he is 'too hyper'and tells him to go home. He's a normal 3 year old boy, they have energy, sheesh. I am so afraid this will completely destroy his feelings for her and hurt him. My mother has already hurt my feelings over this. I told her many times I did not want to meet the child at this time. I am 3 weeks away from giving birth to my second child, a little girl. I am a complete emotional wreck. One day this week, she called and asked me to come over for a visit. I went and found the child was there. I held up for about 10 minutes, I played with him and talked to him. Then the thoughts of this poor child without anyone to love him hit me and I was crying my eyes out. My mother seemed pleased with that and coldly said that I should be thankful when my son is being hyper and getting into things that he is not like this poor boy. That iced the cake for me. My mother has ignored her own grandson for over a year now and if that didn't hurt enough, it seems as if she wants to hurt him now. I have no idea what to do. I feel so badly for this little boy, but my son has my heart, he is the center of my world. I never want him to be hurt or the little one on the way. Can someone please give me advice on this? |
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