 | My 9 year old step son (His biological father hasn't called or communicated with him since his 5th birthday) is becoming increasingly more difficult to manage. He doesn't care about his school work, and his mother and I have to 'babysit' him every afternoon after school through his lessons. If we didn't make him do it, he could care less and wouldn't bother. He has his own playroom with a computer and tv with Playstation, Nintendo, etc. We have taken away his access to these things. He is no longer permitted into his play room. We've told him that he must earn that privilege back one step at at time. He also is prohibited from watching cartoons until he can go a whole week without getting an "N" in behaviour at school. The teacher calls some days and says that he 'refuses' to work. He will disrupt the class and frustrate all efforts to get him to do what he's supposed to. I have now started spanking hime when he comes home with a note from his teacher that says that he refused to work or was otherwise unmanageable. So it's not just at home.
I will also have to spank him at home when his mother and I are helping with his homework. He talks back constantly and will complain and start yelling until I feel as if I'm forced to spank him. If someone has other ideas, please give them as I don't like to spank, but we've tried everything else we can think of. We have taken things away. I've made him write sentences, yet nothing seems to work. He simply will not take the responsibility to do his own work. If we don't help him, he will probably fail 3rd grade. Speaking of that. We were in Florida last year where his second grade teacher was a woman who changed careers and that was her first full time teaching job. My wife and I both agree that she was highly incompetent. She would call all the time saying that our son was "making bad choices". He was pulling the same old stunts. Refusing to work, disrupting the class etc. I want to nip this before it gets any worse. Please help. |
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