 | There is no reason a six year old should be coming home exhausted from school. Our first graders here study literature, music, foreign langiage, mathamatics. Our first graders are not exhausted at the end of the day. They get adequate rest and care. The fact is if your pubic schools are anything like the ones here, your child is getting a mediocre education and most of the kids are just learning how to read, add, and other things our children learn in our four year old Kindergarten.
If anyone wants to take more time with their kids, they can do it. The schools should not be used as an excuse. You people are crying, "Oh, Mrs. D is so mean. She told you the truth and that you could do something about your problem when all you wanted to hear was lies about what a great mother you are for making your child work as many hours as you do and that it's okay." Well, in my eyes, and in the eyes of everyone I have let read about this horribly sad situation-some of which are working moms by the way- it's not okay! Someone needs to help this family and all families who think this is okay and they have no other choice but to neglect and abandon thier child.
It's not like my solution is that hard: stop putting yourself before your child and start striving to give that child the very best. You might not always make the mark, but if you set your standards high you won't be too far off.
Start by maybe buying all YOUR clothes second hand. If you really care about your child, what you wear is not important. Cut off cable television if you have it. If you are nurturing your child properly, he should not be watching TV for more than an hour a day, if at all anyway. If you and your husband both drive cars that require monthly payments, sell one of them. You drive your husband to work or let him drop you off. If that won't work, buy a car you can actually afford that is only for getting back and forth to work or make carpool arrangements. A lot of people waste money in the grocery store. Make a list before you go, and don't buy convenience foods.
Let me give you a glimpse into the life of one of my children. My husband and I saved for a long time before we tried to concieve. She gets up in the morning, gets herself dressed, then comes down for breakfast. We try very hard to all have breakfast as a family, but don't always succeed. Her father or I, or one of her schoolfriends moms takes her to school. The school does not sell lunches, so I pack her lunch everyday. Then, I go pick her up from school or she rides home with a friend. As soon as she gets home, we have a snack together. Some days she has dance, if not, she goes straight to homework. She then does her homework or studies if she has no homework for 1 hour. I then check her homework, and if she has not made any mistakes, she is allowed to watch 1 half hour of televison. We all eat dinner every night together, then each night someone chooses a topic. Last night's topic was chosen by my daughter, She picked the California Recall, so we discusses that. Then it is time to get our things laid out for the next dy. We have fre time from then until bed, but very rarely do we allow the televison to come on. |
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