 | Hi!
I am a stay at home mom with a 3 year old and a newborn. I'm married and own a house. Typical, right! Well, before the 2nd child I had a handle on the "day to day" stuff. I was even working full time!! Now with the little one I have no time for anything.
It is alot of work and I am trying to get everything in order. I try to prioritize what needs to be done but can't stick to it! Either the newborn is awake when he should be sleeping or sleeping when he should be eating! I can't tell you how much formula I wasted trying to prepare it ahead. My 3 year old needs my attention, so I'll play with him. When I try to start another task, he will get annoyed and begin to cry because I'm leaving him. So I stay and play a little longer. I don't want him having any anxiety or ill feelings towards the newborn. I try to divide my time to make him happy and feel that he is truly loved and adored. Sometimes it doesn't feel like it's enough. During this time extra play time with him the newborn is sleeping and this is when I want to get "house chores" done. Once I am able to break free, guess who starts crying!!!!
Life as I know it. It is a day to day struggle and I am trying not to be hard on myself. But sometimes I feel like I'm failing. My husband is very supportive and helps alot with the house and watching the kids, even after a full day of work. He helps to give me time to breathe. Thank goodness for him. He'll watch them and attend to them so I can at least accomplish one of my many tasks for the day. Finally, bedtime!! Hurray! At this point we are both so exausted we fall asleep. We developed date nights once a week if we are able but no less than twice a month. It helps to stay connected.
I know it is a matter of getting into a routine and quite frankly, we are still new at this! Things will fall into place, but it just feels harder this time. Especially, when going out as a family. It seems like it takes forever to get the kids ready!
When I am about to steal some time here and there, I feel extremely guilty! Even though I shouldn't, I do.
I would like to know if anyone else felt/feels overwhelmed and how other people manage. I have spoken to a couple of people and they have no problems, everything is roses! So what am I doing wrong? They could easily be pulling my leg, but why? I know there are people you can do it and I know I am one of them. I'm just trying to get there!
Wow! Sorry to fill your heads with so much! Hope you can give some insight!
Thank you! |
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