Re: 2 year old and timeouts

March 18, 2010

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teacherkeith

DATE: 10/03/03 11:31am

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Re: 2 year old and timeouts

IN REPLY TO: Re: 2 year old and timeouts
AUTHOR: Lawsrnmom

That was my honest answer from my heart to you after hours of reflection - the part about thinking something is really wrong in your attitude toward your child or your attachment that you would punish at all and espeically think of something so drastic as tieing her up for time out.

What I posted to sniper was in a different tone that what I posted to you. Sniper was throwing personal insults at me instead of addressing the actual content of your post and I was taking him very clearly back to the issue and to the points I made. I hate this format. In order to deal with Sniper and make my points more clear for him, it was probably insulting to you. But I didn't see an easier way of addressing his off topic insults than to bring him to the topic as basicly as possible by simplifying it for him.

You asked a public board if it is acceptable to tied up a two year old and I gave you my honest answer that thinking that way is abusive.

There are nurses who abuse children. The problem with formats like this is that sniper posted rudely to me so I posted rudely to him and that is more rude than how I would speak to you if he wasn't here.

You asked a PUBLIC board if tieing up your child for punishment is acceptable and as a member of the public I gave you a very good answer.

No it's not acceptable and get parenting advice from a trained counselor you can trust instead of from people you don't know on a site with perverts.

I think it's ridiculous that you consider counseling to be an insult. It is a very normal and responsible thing to do.

Your thoughts toward your child are not ok. You being a nurse does not help your abusive attitude toward your child.

You need to get some professional help to look at why you are punishing such a small child so drasticly or having such violent thoughts about it.

I realize you have not tied her up as in punishment, but you are asking a cyber space board if it is ok. You should instinctively know that it is not ok.

The books Jan reccomended sound awesome and Jan is a gentler poster, so I am glad she is here.

I'm just not going to lie or hide what I think (not saying anyone is). I couldn't sleep because of what you wrote here and as I kept going over it I felt that something was wrong.

Why ask if you don't want to know?

Do you not see how it is risky to violate children's boundaries, especially girls?

My points are valid. There is something wrong in your relationship with your child and I think the responsible thing to do is get more appropriate help. I think counseling is a great tool. If you are too afraid of it or think it is an insult that is sad, but then at least try all the great books Jan suggested. You need to change your attitude toward your daughter and remove thoughts of control and punishment from your relationship with her.

I apologize if this posts twice. My computer crashed as it was posting so I am reposting.

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2 year old and timeouts

Lawsrnmom

10/02/03 01:48pm