 | Noah's dad, this is exactly what keeps people down. This is exactly why we have so many mothers who work dead end jobs. People in these situations usually have trouble dealing with non-instant gratification situations. They want things and they want them now, they do not want to work hard, wait, and sacrifice for what they want. This is the reason most of these people are in these terrible situations in the first place.
You must be young because you talk like two to four years is a lifetime. If you do not listen to anything else I say, listen to this: One day you will be grey haired. Two years will seem like the blink of an eye to you. You will wonder where your life went and why you didn't take more opportunities when you had the chance.
You are right, this will not be easy. I would just like to picture 2 or 3 years from now a happy little boy coming home from school, being greeted by his mother. If things stay the way they are, this boy will grow up to be a latch-key kid. He will end up 50% more likely to get a girl pregnant before he is married, more likely to try drugs and alcohol. He may never grow up to know what it is like to have a parent.
In order to be considered a primary caregiver to a child, the child must spend at least 51% of his time in your care. This is not happening here. This little boy deserves a mom. This mom sounds like she wants to be a good parent for her child. It doesn't matter who watches the child while she is in school. The child right now has no mother at all. At least there will be an end, there will be hope for this child. The little boy is six now. By the time he is nine, this mom could have a fabulous job, feel more confident about herself as a woman and a mother, and have a whole new world opened up for her and her child.
The only way things can get worse for this child is for things not to change. You can come up with all the excuses in the world why one can't make things better for this little boy or try to justify this child working more hours than most adults, that does not make it right or healthy for this child or his mother. |
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