 | We have 3 year old twins (boy & girl) and they are night and day! We keep a sticker rewards chart posted in the kitchen on a bulliten board. They get stickers for going to the bathroom, getting dressed, brushing teeth, sharing, helping with cleaning up, etc. When they have filled their sticker chart (usually takes about a week) they get to go to the store and pay for one little toy ($5 or so) with their sticker chart (they actually give the checker their sticker chart) we explain to the checker what is going on and they usually play along and talk it up really big. Then the kids get their toys in their own bag and they are very proud. We also take stickers away for bad behavior and that too is very effective (especially with our girl). Now our boy is a little different... he has some definite anger issues and he does get out of control with hitting, kicking and biting... and any kind of punishment seems to escalate the situation. We have tried putting his toys in time out also and sometimes that works... but once his temper escalates sometimes there is just nothing we can do but hold him in a theraputic hold to keep him from destroying the house and hitting us, etc. This has been VERY effective. I know it sounds cruel, but just think of it as keeping him from hurting himself and you... We only have to hold him for about 1 minute before he calms and we are able to talk to him. Believe me, we are still struggling on a daily basis... but so far at least some of it is working. Good luck and hope things get better for you! |
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