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| | | NEXT MESSAGE  | | | | | AUTHOR: | Gwen B | DATE: 08/26/03 7:47pm | | SUBJECT: |  Dealing with step daughters relatives | | | The big problem I am having currently (themes change monthly) is that my stepdaughters Aunt took her & the Aunt's daughter (of similar age) out shopping with $100 each that the maternal grandmother gave the Aunt for that purpose. That is all great and everything, but this took place a few days after I had told the Aunt that another shopping trip wasn't necessary because step-d. had pretty many clothes purchased with the last cash donation from grandma a month earlier, and that all she really needed were shoes. The real kicker is that the clothes were all items that I have specifically said no to many times before, due to their tight, skimpy fit, and suggestive nature. Also, no shoes were purchased. I do not believe that young girls should dress in that manner until they are much older, if at all. My step-d. is only 13 and wants to act & dress in a sexually suggestive manner. My husband, her dad, takes a no-contest type of attitude: he doesn't want to make waves or alienate his daughter. What complicates this even farther is that her mother (my husbands previous wife)died in 1995, so her mother's family feels the need to do these things from time to time. I feel that I have been disrespected by them all going out and buying these clothing items behind my back, after I had specifically said no. My daughter, who is 16 months younger(almost 12), is feeling like she is not good enough for her step sisters family. They invite us to all family functions and treat us like we are "real" family-up to a point, then the lines are obvious. How can I get everybody to understand the "blended family rules" so that no child(his, hers or ours) feels "less than" and that the "in-laws" respect our rules? | |  | |
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