Struggling in relationship of 3 yrs because of 15 yr old boyfriends daughter

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AUTHOR:

Jumbalaya

DATE: 08/26/03 3:46pm

SUBJECT:

Struggling in relationship of 3 yrs because of 15 yr old boyfriends daughter

I am a single mom of 2 children (7 yr old daughter and 12 yr old son) and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 yrs. He has two adult children, a son who will be 18 and daughter who will be 16 shortly. I only see him on weekends because of the hour distance we live from each other but that works for us because of our jobs and our childrens needs. I recently took a family vacation with my two children and his daughter whom brought a friend of hers with her. The friend was very friendly only the daughter ignored myself and my children the whole week and did not say even Hi. I have known from the past that she isn't very personable but haven't had to spend alot of time with her because of the every other weekends of the kids with the ex's and only seeing my boyfriend on weekends. She is most of the time with her friends and never around. Boy did this vacation open my eyes as to how disrespectful she was to myself and my children. I confronted my boyfriend as to how uncomfortable it made me and even my youngest asked me why the daughter didn't like us. He said that its just the way her personality is and he has learned to live with it. She is very needy and though he brings her everywhere and does everything for her she never appreciates it and that makes me angry because he is a hard worker and does everything for his kids and she disrespects him all the time. My 7 yr old has better please and thank you manners than she does and when she asks for stuff she demands it with no please or thank you. I know that it is difficut raising teenagers compared to younger children from what i've been told but this to me is different. I'm afraid there is more wrong with this girl than what her father see's. I know right now she is only interested in being with her friends and has no time for adults but she isn't far from having to go out in the real world and get a job and i'm afraid for her. I'm afraid it will ruin our relationship because now I have told my boyfriend I will no longer bring my children to his house when she is there and I also will not go because I refuse to sit there and watch her disrespect him and us. He is a great man and a dream come true but I don't know what to do anymore and I would never make him choose between the two of us because that isn't fair. Any thoughts of better days ahead or any type of feedback would be greatly appreciated.... Thanks

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Struggling in relationship of 3 yrs because of 15 yr old boyfriends daughter

Jumbalaya

08/26/03 03:46pm

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