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johnathansmom

DATE: 08/20/03 11:28am

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Re: Will I survive the ex and step kids?

IN REPLY TO: Will I survive the ex and step kids?
AUTHOR: nicole2003

I was in a relationship a bit like yours is now. The only difference being I had no children or ex.
I was not allowed to the ex's house and she belittled me infront of their kids and him. The eldest daughter was 10 when we moved in together and she let me know from the start that shw would do everything in her power to split us up. The youngest started off badly, but eventually things worked out. Until I fell pregnant! Then things went to pot! Even the youngest started behaiving badly towards me and the baby. The eldest swore at me and threatened both mine and my baby's life. When I told him - he said I was paranoid and making things up!
The worst bit was that my son's father never took my side in an argument. He always said it was my fight and I had to find a way to solve it. Great, but in reality all it showed his kids and ex-wife was that they could all gang up on me and he would sit on the fence and watch it happening.
I eventually left the relationship, 5 months pregnant. His ex phoned me and told me to stay away from him.
3 years on they have moved to a town only an hour from me and the kids who hated me and the baby now want to be part of his life. The ex and I talked and discovered that he was playing us off against each other. We have sorted out our differences and my son sees his half-sisters when they can.
But my point is this..
If your partner won't stand up for you and your relationship against his ex and kids, all he is doing is showing them that they mean more to him than you.
You deserve a better life for you and your son. Your son deserves someone who will love him unconditionally regardless of blood ties or genetics.
Good Luck for the future!

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Will I survive the ex and step kids?

nicole2003

07/20/03 09:46am

Re: Will I survive the ex and step kids?

Stepmom to 3

08/05/03 07:37am

Re: Will I survive the ex and step kids?

johnathansmom

08/20/03 11:28am

Re: Will I survive the ex and step kids?

nicole2003

08/30/03 06:45am

Re: Will I survive the ex and step kids?

johnathansmom

08/31/03 11:38am

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