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| | | NEXT MESSAGE  | | | | | AUTHOR: | Shebrat | DATE: 08/18/03 10:25am | | SUBJECT: |  i am getting confused, Mom of two in fostercare, learning to be stronger in parenting? | | | Here's the situation, my children were removed from my care due to a very serious matter,my son got hurt by a babysitter, anyways,
The children now live with their Grandparents, my mother(whom just had a hysterectomy) and my step father (normal), my sister 22(lesbian), and brother 30 (compulsive liar).
the situation is this, My daughter whom is 10 years old apparently still acts out for attention by acting babyish. whining when she is hurt, this is according to this disfunctional family members.
I am confused because i need help in parenting, (disciplining) My mother the tyrant that she's been has stated to me that i'm not being a parent when i step in to interviene a problem that my children are having.
mind you the 10 and 4 year old are at two different stages in life. this is what came about and how i handled it.
10 year old slips and gets a grass rub on her knee, She holds her leg up and squints through the pain. she roles back as if she's going to get up. 4 year old goes over to her and thinks she's playing, kicks her on her head. The girl screams bloody mary at the top of her lungs directed at the 4 year old. I go to the situation and tell my son that he needs to go sit on the step and he does so while crying, I help my child up off the ground and go tell her to wash up and calm down i'll be in in a minute. All the time my mother is yelling at me to quit babying my daughter. I then go to my son and tell him to calm down, that his sister is ok, but he still needs to appologize, I then take him in the bathroom where his sister is sitting on the toilet, nursing her wound, and still wimpering, my son apologizes to her and washes his face, and everything is calm down again, my daughter is fine until my mother tells me that i am led into my daughters babying way to easily.
and then we get into a major blow out me and mom, in which case i am told that i am not being a parent, instead i'm being a friend. What did i do wrong? why am i getting negative reaction to a i thought a negative to positive situation? help me please?
any feedback would be helpful in this situation, except the punning of my family. I need help with the parenting part. | |  | |
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