 | My husband and I have three wonderful children. I read the various articles about birth order, and the only one I disagree with is the one about the middle child. We have always acknowledged the similarities between the children, as well as what makes them each their own wonderful person. And we have never called our son the middle child. He has always been called by his name, or else we say our oldest son, or our second child when in conversation with someone who doesn't know our children to clarify whom we are speaking of. The first born and third born characteristics fit our other two children very well. Our oldest is a girl (ll), followed by two boys (9 and 5). I find that the initial characteristics do fit our oldest son, but upon reading the article, I didn't agree at all. Our son knows his place in our family, and knows we love and admire his uniqueness, as well as that of his siblings. We have always strived to make each of our children feel loved and special, and we have never once said things to any of them like, "Why can't you be more like your sister, brother, etc." We have never compared them to one another. They are three different people, even though they are related and very similar in many ways. Based on your article, I guess there must be many people whom to do compare, and that is sad. Parents should simply see the uniqueness in each of their children, and embrace, support, and nurture those traits which make each child special and wonderful. |
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