 | Hi!
I'm pretty new here but I hope you'll help me anyway.
I'm Irish (I know, my account says missouri; I had my brain somewhere up in the clouds) and a catholic. I'm 31 years old and a mother of 12; it'll be 13 in February. I had my first child when I was 17.
Bethany (my oldest) came a month early and it was a terrible delivering (I had labours for 34 hours; I'm not kidding!)
Joleah was two months early and she was also hard to deliver and had to be taken through forceps delivery. Joleah was the first of my children to come after a very hard pregnancy.
Four months later I misscarried, pregnant in 2nd month. I was shocked and it took me very hard mentally; luckely I had two toddlers and a lovely husband to cheer me up.
David was also born after a hard pregnancy and he was taken by forceps and after that doc said that I shouldn't have more children.
Well, instead of NOT having more children I had three at once; and it nearly took my life.
A year after the triplets were born I had misscarried; now three months pregnant (it was around Christmas). My doctor was very pessimistic, but I made it through. I don't think I have to tell you that I felt bad mentally afterwards.
Then I had twins; Matthew and Michael. the pregnancy was terrible, but the birth went easy.
Next child to come was Gwendolyn; another easy birth (only four hours of labours!!)
Then very soon after I had Gwen I became pregnant again. Almost seven months pregnant I "misscarried". The baby survieved however, and I did too.
Neither Gwen nor Nath caused me any sickness or so while I was expecting them!
I misscarried, four months along, almost two years after Nathalie was born. It was around this time in the beginning of 2001. The doctor was very upset with me afterwards and told me and my husband to avoid having more children.
then, I had twins in May 2002. The pregnancy was terrible but the birth easy.
One year ago I misscarried, two months along. it was also very difficult; but mostly mentally. David was with me when I happent and I was very worried for his sake. He didn't take it to hard though, I was probably just being overprotective.
Now, I'm pregnany again, and I'm terrified.
What if I'll misscarry again? i don't want my children to see it and it's hard on me both mentally and psycally.
I don't work, I spend all my time at home with the kids and I have a very good relation to all of them. I don't think they have anything against their number of siblings but both for their sake and for mine and John's we don't want more children. After my four first pregnancies we decided to try not to have more kids. then after two more pregnancies we only had sex at safe days; but it didn't help.
then after the next four children we tried the safe days method for a while. It worked for two years then the misscarriage etc.
John is a fantastic husband and the kids are completley amazing.
But I'm so scared this time; and John is too. Beth knows something's wrong but she doesn't know it's so serious.
Leah and Dave knows that "mom gets ill often when she's pregnant". The triplets knows that I get ill sometimes and the smaller ones don't know so much
I'm scared
Have any of you been in this situation; or in a similar situation?
I would love to have advice and to be "cheered up".
Sorry for complaining so much; I know I should be happy about my children and believe me I am; I just had to get this out!
Best Wishes
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