 | Please forgive me Jim, it's early and I'm still a little groggy. It may just be me, but I can't get my brain completely around your statements.
As for my family, we're doing great. I wanted to clarify that in my last post when I refered to an "amazing father" I was speaking of my Husband, the father of my children. I just spoke with him this morning about my decision to eliminate the spanking option from my discipline agenda with my (just 3 year old) son. My husband has never had to spank our kids. I would be happy to discuss that with you in more detail if you are interested. I believe the spankings our son has recieved have gotten him over the "hump" and he is now responsive to my instructions. I acomplished my goal because he knows I will do whatever I have to do to keep him safe, whether he likes it and understands it or not. Now that he is 3 his communication skills have advanced a lot! From the age of 2 to three, it seemed like my daily chore was to identify the 1,000 ways he seemed to be able to find to injure, or kill himself. Including wandering off in public places. It was torture taking him anywhere. Having to be "Hypervigilant" the duration of time we spent at a public park, an amusement park, the toy store, the mall, the beach made it almost impossible to take him anywhere. He had absolutely no fear, didn't know a stranger anywhere we went. Coupled with his incredible sense of adventure (and the fact he can run like the wind) made him impossible to manage. We spent most of his second year in the backyard, it was really fun and most memorable but very restrictive. With the onset of his ability to have more sophisticated dialogue, it's time to drop the spankings. I also want to clarify, when he "shrinks back" from me, it is only when he knows he's is doing something he should not be doing and he knows he's in trouble.
As for the "troll posting". Based on what you say Jim, there is still no way for me to know that you are not simply "trolling" here, and may have even "hooked" me. How can I know that my willingness to post my parenting perspectives in response to some of the things you have said was not just you manipulating me into your "game"? From what I have read, it appears that you have put out some of this so called bait yourself. Is my "bait" your flattery? This is not an attack, it is just my observation based on what I have read. I don't know you and can't know your heart. What is your motive Jim? |
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