 | Hi Claire
I'm Claire as well by the way.
I suffered a missed abortion myself 3 years ago and chose to have a d&c, mainly because it was 3 days before xmas and I wanted it over with as I was in a bit of pain and didn't want to miss xmas with my daughter who was 8 at the time. I was experiencing a slight reddish discharge and went to the doctors who referred me for an internal scan. I, like yourself, thought I was about 11 weeks but it turned out that I was about 6 and the baby had just dissolved away into, well nothing really. It is a very personal choice and one you have to make for yourself. A d&c is very straightforward medically but is quite an issue emotionally, I felt a slight sense of guilt for a while. I think I would have found it very hard to sit and wait for nature to take it's course, but then I had another child to think about. I have since gone on to have a perfectly healthy pregnancy and perfectly healthy 2 year old, so don't view it as 'the end' it's a hiccup that's all. Don't be put off trying again either. My cousin suffered a missed abortion about 2 months before me and is still petrified of trying again in case history repeats itself. It won't. It is natures way of dealing with a problem. You can go on to have a healthy preganacy and baby and I'm living proof! Good things come to those who wait, or so my nan always says.
I hope everything works out well for you in the future, I'm, sure it will.
My thoughts are with you at this awful time.
Claire |
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