Re: ADHDw/Bipolar II

March 15, 2010

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blondie123

DATE: 08/05/03 10:44pm

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Re: ADHDw/Bipolar II

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AUTHOR: RebeccaLynn

Hi....very often, these children have a low tolerance level and poor coping skills so they get easily frustrated and act out aggressively in order to vent their anger or gain control over a situation. Sometimes the behavior is a combination of environment and the disorder. If the child knows that this type of behavior is effective in terms of getting what he wants out of the situation, he will use it as a tool to manipulate those that allow it. Its wonderful to hear that you dont hit your child as hitting reinforces agressive behavior and teaches the child that violence is the way to correct a problem. Try giving him short term goals in order to get a reward. Long term goals will only frustrate him more and will produce a negative outcome. Commend him when he displays appropriate behavior as very often these children have very low self esteem and if he starts to feel good about himself, he will feel better about the world. Positive reinforcement works well whereas negative reinforcement just exaserbates the inappropriate behaviors. Also, you and your husband must be on the same page and work as a team.
I can't comment on your sons anger towards females specifically as I don't know personal circumstances but I recommend that you do tons of reasearch on bipolar disorder and ADHD so that you could better understand why your son displays certain behaviors. The more we understand, the less frustrated we become and are better equipped to deal with the behaviors in terms of how to tone them down. There are many good books you could read on bipolar disorder and ADHD which will not only help you understand these disorders but also give you great strategies on how to help your child. I hope this helps :)

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