 | I couldnt have said it better myself. I am a "no spanker" and dang proud of it. My child is not only extremly well behaved, but very intelligent, and one of the most loving children I have ever seen. She doesnt fear either of her parents, she respects us both.
I agree with other forms of discipline. Dont eat all of your food no snack, or you will eat the rest later when hungry. You dont clean your room properly then it must be because you have to many toys, garbage bag time. You tell me no then you need to take time to yourself in your room to think about things. And YES you CAN reason with a toddler.
My child is 3 turning 4 end of september and I she understands what consequences are GOOD and BAD. She knows that if she asks for something she must say please and thank you, and if she is told no she knows she will be given a reason why first, and then she will not argue.
I feel that parents need to take more time and dedication in raising their children. I have seen parents who spank their children interact and discipline and I know why they spank, because they are not dedicated in discipline. One time of asking a child to do something and the kid says no they get yelled at and spanked, another time of asking and the kid says no and the parent asks again and again, and then finally just does it themselves. Well guess what the child just won control and it will take the parent a very long time to get that back. If we are not consistent in our parenting how can we expect our children to be consistent in well behavior.
Children learn by example. I know I dont want my child to be learning when someone doesnt listen to you it is ok to hit them! |
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