 | I just wanted to write this down for any mother who has come across this proublem and didnt know what to do about it.
When my baby was first born, she cried, man did she cry. She was loud and it was never ending the first few months. I was a brand new mom and growing more nervous by the day. One night I was so tired and she woke up ready to eat. She never woke up quite then work herself into a loud frinzy, she started loud and it got worse. When I finished feeding her that night I went to put her down but the crying started again. I put her in the bed with me but she didnt stop, I burped her, changes her, made sure the baby room wasnt to hot or to cold, I rocked her but to no avail.
By now I was losing myself to sleepy anger. I went with her in my arms and threw her in her crib. I didnt put her down gently, I threw her down out of being so frustrated. I started crying picked her back up and hugged her. I felt like the most terrible mom in the world, how could I have hurt her like that?
Well a few days go by and the same old crying was still a part of her every waking minute. To get to the point I almost did it again. I wanted to shake her, throw her down, yell at her. Then I put her down--softly-- and got out of the houde for a few minutes. Moms sometimes you gotta let them cry and get a break. I trainned myself that when I reached that point where I was going to lose my temper to put her down and get out. It worked, I regainned myself and took care of my baby. I asked for help sometimes which was something I needed.
So if you are mad at your baby cause they are so loud, not able to be pleased and your getting all upset, thats ok, we have been there, I was. Take a few minutes to yourself, go outside away from the crying till you get your nerves under control and always ask for help:)
BTW she was hurting from her formula, we changed it and she was great, but I always walked away when I was upset to the point I couldnt handle her. In time I was fine with her crying. And I learned to see that I could do this, we would be fine. This was not easy for me to write, but I know I am not the only one who has gone through this and I wanted to write it so that it could help a mom going through the same thing...Take care moms and babies!!!! |
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